How Online Couples Counseling Can Save Your Marriage

December 15, 2017

 

 
 
Problems arise in every relationship. It's how you take care of them that matters. Online couples counseling can offer you instant therapy on your time table.
 
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Do you feel something's wrong in your relationship?

 

There's no shame if you do - approximately 45% of US marriages end in divorce, so it's best to be honest with yourself and your partner and seek help if you need it.

However, the hustle and bustle of everyday life can sometimes get in the way. It can be challenging to find the time to schedule an appointment with a therapist.

This is where online couples counseling comes into its own.

 

Is Online Couples Counseling Effective?

 

In short, yes it is, and it can be very effective.

You have to remember that regardless of whether you see a therapist in person or online, it boils down to the headspace of the two parties involved.

 

In the words of April Beyer:

'There's no such thing as a failed romance. Relationships simply evolve into what they were always meant to be. It's best not to try to make something that is meant to be seasonal or temporary into a lifelong relationship. Let go and enjoy the journey.'

Both of you need to be motivated and should want to work through your problems.

Sadly, some couples treat couples therapy as divorce counseling because they both believe their relationship is over.

Let's face it: if you undertake online couples counseling with an attitude like that, you won't work things out with your partner.

 

How Can I Make the Most Out of Online Couples Counseling?

 

You both need to find a therapist online that you're comfortable talking to.

If the therapist isn't a good fit for either of you, you'll struggle to feel the benefit.

In some cases, the wrong therapist could make things worse. So be sure to do your research and source services from someone reputable.

You Have to Get the Timing Right

If you're going to pursue online couples counseling, you have to get the timing right.

By this we mean, don't leave it too late to seek therapy.

It's common for couples to wait too long before attending couples counseling. Consequently, issues become entrenched within the fabric of the relationship.

This can conjure powerful emotions like bitterness, jealousy, and anger. So, as you can imagine, the longer these negative emotions harbor, the harder the issues are to resolve.

So, seek help sooner rather than later!

 

What Will We Get out of Online Couples Counseling?

 

If you're both motivated and willing to put in the work to fix your relationship, you'll both get a lot from the experience.

Online couples counseling is a safe place to explore your deep-rooted issues, and it provides an opportunity for you both to consider your problems with a fresh perspective.

The beauty of couples counseling is that you're working alongside a professional. Your therapist is 'neutral territory.'

 

This forces both parties to sit back and listen to someone who's completely impartial. Often this encourages you to analyze your relationship from a different angle.

This should lead to you both exploring new and healthy ways to resolve your issues. You'll find that these methods stand you in good stead for years to come.

Alternatively, if things still aren't working, online couples counseling provides the perfect setting to get closure on your break up.

 

Use it as a learning experience, allow yourself to understand where and why things went wrong.

 

Break Toxic Patterns of Behavior
 

Online couples counseling is excellent for identifying toxic behavior. This can often get entrenched in your relationship without either of you even realizing.

To get the most out of therapy, aim to identify and agree on destructive habits.

It's the only way you and your partner will be able to move forward.

Bring Trust Back to Your Relationship
 

Online counseling is the perfect environment to lay the foundations for bringing back trust - if it's lost.

 

Your therapist will help you work on this. Hopefully, with a little time and an open mind, things will get better.

 

Improve How You Communicate With Your Partner
 

Additionally, you'll work on effectively communicating with one another.

This is essential for both avoiding and resolving conflicts.

 
Tackle Mental Health Issues
 

Often poor mental health (like anxiety and depression) takes its toll on relationships.

You may find your therapist recommends Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) techniques. These will help to improve the state of your mental health.

 

When we're overcome by anxiety, it's often difficult to be our best selves. This can lead to tense conversations that lead to more explosive arguments.

 

CBT has proven time and again to be one of the most effective techniques for combatting anxiety. Hopefully, these sessions will improve not only your personal health but also that of your relationship.

 

Is CBT Useful for Anything Else?

 

Yes, CBT is fabulous.

People benefit from CBT even when they don't have a mental illness. Not only do these techniques help improve romantic relationships, but they'll also help you interact with people in general.

 

CBT will help you analyze your thought patterns and align them with reality. You and your therapist should work together to test your thoughts and see whether they're accurate.

With time and practice, you'll replace your negative thoughts with more accurate and constructive ones. This does wonders for both your well-being and how you approach relationships.

 

Sadly, sometimes destructive thoughts are accurate. If that's the case, your therapist will help you tackle these issues.

 

Want More Info on Online Couples Counseling?

 

If you would like further information, please feel free to check out our services page.

Over there you can find out more about how we could help you and your partner get back on track.

 

If you have any questions, please feel free to email us at [email protected] and one of our friendly team will get back to you as soon as possible.

 

Alternatively, you might find our blog helpful. Especially our recent article; '7 Common Marital Problems and How to Solve Them.'

 

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