Save Your Marriage: 7 Signs It's an Emotional Affair

November 15, 2016

 

 

 An Emotional Affair?

 

Emotional affairs fly under the radar, and sometimes we're not aware it's happening until it's too late. As a Cincinnati marriage counseling expert, I can help.

 

We live in a time that obliges us to keep running. We walk, eat, talk, type, work fast. Also, we tend to fall in love quickly too. But, sometimes, we don’t even realize it.

 

It all starts with a text that makes you smile, with a compliment you want to get. Many times, it starts with friendship which, eventually, you want to evolve into something more. You need to feel loved and you, subconsciously, form a bond between yourself and another person.

Everything sounds idyllic, right?

 

Yes, but what happens when you are already in a relationship? Is it friendship or an emotional affair?

 

 

 

What is an Emotional Affair? (The  Marriage Counseling Expert Definition)

 

First, let’s just start by saying that an emotional affair can be equally destructive to your relationship as physical cheating. Sometimes, though, it might get much more harmful since it is hard to realize and even harder to resolve.

 

You usually feel a deep connection and a great sense of intimacy. In other words, emotional affairs are affairs that are not physical in nature but still plant feelings in your heart. At first, it might seem like an innocent flirt, but as your feelings grow, it can have a destructive impact on your relationship.

 

Emotional infidelity is out there and, now, when chatting with strangers is more available than ever, the possibility of getting into one is enormous. Not only because it's in our nature but because they can be addictive as well.

 

So, let’s take a look together at seven signs that prove your friendship might be an emotional affair. After all, as a Cincinnati marriage counseling expert, I believe I can help.

 

You Think About The Other Person All The Time

 

We’ve all been there, and we know how this one feels like. Everything starts with our minds which constantly play the same image: The person we want to get involved with.

 

Thinking about the other person may sound too obvious. But when it comes to emotional affairs (when you usually are already in contact with your person of interest) things can get confusing. How do you know if you are thinking about someone as a lover instead of a friend?

Also, being in a relationship makes you doubt yourself and your feelings. This is actually something common that, as a Cincinnati marriage counseling practitioner, I have noticed: When it comes to affairs, people start by mistrusting their emotions.

 

If waking up means checking their Facebook profiles or looking when they last logged in on WhatsApp, romantic feelings are evolving.

 

 

 

Your Partner Knows Nothing About It

 

When you make new friends that excite you, you always go to your partner to tell them about this new, cool person that you’ve met. However, in an emotional affair, things don’t go that way.

 

You hide the relationship from your partner either because you believe they will feel jealous or because you can’t explain its nature. In any case, protecting your "friend" from the person of your life means that you are hiding them for some reason.

 

This reason is usually called guilt or hope for something more to happen between you two. Also, when you and your partner talk about your “friend,” you get anxious and act like he or she is not important to you. And we both know this is not true, don’t we?

 

It’s Your Partners vs. The Other Person

 

Seriously? Do you still believe that this relationship is innocent? Well, it is not.If you keep comparing your partner to the other person that you’ve met, then you are thinking about getting into a relationship with them. Somehow you have turned them into a replacement to your primal relationship or a potential significant other.

 

In other words, you want him or her as your partner. And, additionally, you can't